DO WE HEAL FOR OURSELVES, OR FOR THE WORLD AROUND US?
- Loredana Ciobotaru
- Nov 11
- 3 min read

The whole Creation was never the subject of a singular component. This Journey was never meant to be in solitude, but rather held in accompaniment. While you cannot walk other people's walk, support is needed to be shared in struggle and beauty. Often I encounter people who, in their confusion, stop and reflect on their choice to heal.
The deep-rooted repetitive questions "what now, what's next?" make them slow down, sometimes even fall into an inert trap, due to the alertness of the fearful ego. It's not easy, and we should never take for granted this choice to heal. It's a big deal, it's betting on yourself again after a while of no longer listening to your inner voice.
If I were to think of a single truth that matters, it is that healing is a right we are given with the first heartbeat of this human journey. And I do not deny that many times I have asked myself if it is worth doing it, if through this process I manage to inspire others or at least help. But these questions became secondary in time, and the answers were no longer necessary. In the search for the self, the ego places many traps. Doubt is the oldest mechanism of the ego afraid of being dissolved. Not rarely, we fall into the mirage that we are doing it for the child, for the parent with whom we want to repair the fragmented past, or for the partnership in which we stay and cannot find peace. And it is not wrong to start from there. But that is not the source of the spring. We cannot reach it, except by swimming. We can hardly carry all our loved ones on our backs to cross the turbulent river. They too must swim, or at least keep themselves afloat, otherwise it is very difficult and most of the time we may end up exhausted, drowning in a strong wave.
The gentlest and clearest truth I have come to so far in my process is that we heal for ourselves. And it is enough to start with this intention. No, it is not selfishness, it is love in action.
It is movement with all of life that happens every second.Â
And yet...
The one who heals has the goodwill to receive and to support another as well. Not because they want to prove something, not because "it's the chosen one" (as some voices will try to belittle you along the path), but simply because the one who has chosen to walk the walk knows how important it is to have someone who holds the candle in some dark corners of the road where it is almost impossible to see what you are stepping onto next.
the effect of the ripples,
it's not something illusory. It's the HEALING PRESENCE. It's the self coming home. You are indeed the healing presence in action at every table, in every encounter, in every approach to life.
You are saying YES to life, and every relationship with all that is, is being received, is being met in ALLOWING it to happen. Not from a place of restriction, of a narrative that keeps fear as the primordial authority, and not from a conditioned ego only. You meet reality from a place of infinite unfolding, from the freedom of all that might possibly happen. You are the spectator and the participant of your own stage, without the need to blame the surrenderings, life and destiny, Mercury retrograde, law of attraction, karmic and dharmic Intelligence.
Your presence is healing for a place called life that has meaning JUST THE WAY IT IS MET.
The narrative can speak a lot about a repetitive past, the voices can describe some imaginative movements of the water's currents, but as Heraclitus beautifully said: "It is not possible to step into the same river twice."
This is the healing presence that does not ask whether it is healing for itself or for the world.
Who is the world and I, or the I AM and the world?
Is it not the same as the world within me, and the I AM within the world?
It is like asking the shore about its existence without the water to embrace it. It is like asking someone to go north on a map without south. In this process of coming back "home", cause and effect are no longer generators of a constant action and reaction.
What now?
I allow you to find your own answers, which can only be lived in the permission of being one with life.
Dear you,
Be kind in your questioning.


